Thoughts on Negative Relationships

So, you've been told that if there is someone in your life that is more of a negative than a positive influence in your life, you're supposed to cut them out. Whether this be a friend, partner, acquaintance, etc., if they are causing negative experiences on a regular basis then it would be best for you to eliminate them from your life.

Okay cool.

Sounds like after the initial difficulty of saying goodbye, this would benefit your life overall.

I would happen to agree with this advice................most of the time.

Over the past year I have been forced with the decision to cut a lot of people out of my life. This was not only because I moved away from most of my relationships, but because ultimately they were causing more harm than good in my life.

Or so I thought.

By saying goodbye to a lot of the friends in my life, I managed to remove some relationships that were actually positive, but only negative by association. Because these persons were associated with the group of friends that hurt me and caused me a lot of pain, I accidentally eliminated a couple people who I realize now, are extremely important to me.

Because of this decision,

I am forced to grieve the loss of what I had with them.

I am forced to see their social media posts and feel my heart collapse.

I am forced to face the fact that I cut someone out that I loved.

I know that eventually everything will work itself out, and that these people may eventually become obsolete, but it doesn't change the fact that I truly miss the positive impact that some of those relationships had on my life.

So, to anyone who took the time to read this I beg of you- Make sure that before you go cutting people out who you think are ruining your life, make sure you take the time to REALLY nail down the hard and fast facts as to WHY they need to be let go. Because my friends, unless you have a long list of horrific reasons for why this person has affected your life negatively, in the long run it will be worth it to work through your hardships and come out on the other end stronger in your relationship.

Loosing someone by cutting them out is hard, and sometimes necessary- but working hard for a loved one is much more necessary in the end.

To the ones I loved that I let go,

Bailey

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